It can be hard being a sort of adult. You’re expected to do adult things and act a certain way but when it really comes down to it, a lot of people don’t feel like adults. You graduate high school and suddenly you’re expected to fend for yourself. These are some things that you can do to make your life feel less chaotic and more together:
Make your Bed Every Morning
This is something you’ve probably been hearing since you were a little kid.I will admit, I am not consistent at making my bed. But, when I do make my bed, it makes my room feel 100 times cleaner. Even if there are clothes on the floor and glasses on the nightstand, somehow making the bed erases all of that and makes the room feel organized and clean. Just make your bed.
Wash your Sheets
While we’re talking about your bed. Wash your damn sheets. I know that this is something people put off and I did for a long time. But there’s nothing better than climbing into bed at night and being greeted by fresh sheets. And, when I say sheets, I don’t mean to just wash your sheets. I’m talking about your sheets, pillow cases, comforter, and your throw blankets. The works. Just do it, you’ll thank me. This is also something that always makes me feel very accomplished, like I did something good. It doesn’t take that much effort but it can have a big impact on your mood.
Develop a Skincare Routine
This is one that I have struggled with for a long time. I have a hard time being consistent with my skin care. I use the cetaphil cleanser and moisturizer and it works for me. I know it has sulphates which is not ideal but I have a lot of it right now and it will be a while before I can try anything else. Anyways, washing your face and having clean feeling skin can make you feel more confident and put together.
Stop Putting Things Off
Do you need to go to the dentist? Take out the trash? Do your taxes? Just do it. It won’t take as long as you think and it will be way easier. You will feel so great after you finish whatever task has been looming over you. Maybe it’s a sink full of dishes waiting to be washed. Whatever it is, starting is the hardest part, I promise. Once you have started, there is nothing else standing in your way.
Plan your Grocery Shop
Decide what you want to eat for the week, make a list, and stick to it at the store. Stop living off hot cheetos and make some real food for yourself. Part of being an adult is taking care of your health (a big part actually) and you won’t have anyone else around to tell you what yo eat. Planning out meals can save you a ton at the grocery store which never hurts.
Pantry Staples: https://struggling20something.com/2020/03/09/20-foods-to-have-in-your-pantry/
Buy a Plant and Keep it Alive
I have not managed to do this yet. My mom got be this adorable little cactus for my birthday and I was so scared to kill it that I made sure to water it lots and I drowned it. How sad is that. I’ve been contemplating getting another plant. I just think that being responsible for something and keeping it alive can make you feel accomplished and put together.
Invest in a Planner and Use it
Go to chapters right now and buy the cutest planner that money can buy. Now, fill it up with assignments, work obligations, hangouts, to do lists, etc. Having your whole life in one place can make you feel like you have your life together. It will make you feel like you’re not forgetting anything.
Go to Bed Early and Wake up Early
I used to go to bed at all hours of the night.I think I’ve probably gone to bed at any time you can name. When I was in university there were nights that I would go to bed at 4 or 6 in the morning and get up for an 8:30 class. Some nights I didn’t sleep at all. Don’t do this. Manage your time so that you can fit everything into the daytime and reserve the hours of 10-6 for sleeping. I cannot imagine going back to my old sleep habits. I am almost always in bed before ten, even on weekend. Trust me, it is one of the best things for you. If you aren’t going to do this, then you aren’t serious about getting your life together.
Get Serious about your Finances
Knowing the state of your finances can give you peace of mind and will make you feel very adult. Don’t be that person who can’t even look at their bank statement because it gives them anxiety. Be the person with a budget who knows exactly what they are spending and where their money is going. A great start to this step is creating a budget. I have couple of posts on managing your money that I will link here:
Creating a Budget: https://struggling20something.com/2020/01/08/creating-a-budget/
Saving Money: https://struggling20something.com/2020/01/10/curb-your-spending/
Make a Five Year Plan
Making a five year plan will help you put the rest of these steps into practice. Having goals to work toward will motivate you to implement positive change in your life. If you can visualize where you want to be, you can start thinking about how you’re going to get there and a lot of theses steps will help you on your way. Make this plan as detailed as you can and outline how you are going to get to each goal. Do you want to make a big purchase in the next five years? Develop a savings plan. Do you want to be making a certain amount of money, how do you plan to advance in your career? Maybe you want to get a book published or have an art piece displayed at a gallery. Whatever it is, figure out how you’re going to get there. If you’re struggling with your five year plan, check out my post: What do you want in life. This post will walk you through setting some goals and making a plan.
These are the things that I do in my life to make myself feel like I have it together. Most days I think I do O.K but of course, there are times when I feel like I’m falling apart. I promise you, if you do a couple of things on this list, you will instantly feel better about your situation. Please let me know in the comments what you do to feel like you have your life together or if you tried any of the things on my list!