During these trying times, everyone is likely in need of a little extra love. Even if you are at home with your partner more than ever, it doesn’t mean that you are necessarily spending quality time with them. I feel more tied to my work than ever, now that I’m working at home. I find myself checking my email far later than I should be and typically some kind of problem arises that I need to deal with. It can also just be hard to be cooped up in the house, even with someone you love. So what can we do for our partner that reinforces that love?
Cook them Dinner
Since no one can go out to eat, why don’t you cook dinner for the two of you? It can be as fancy or as simple as you want but sometimes it’s nice to take on that responsibility (especially if one of you always does the cooking). A nice touch would be to cook your partners favourite meal if you have the food on hand. Also, don’t forget to do the dishes after! You know what one of the perks of working from home is?
Make them Breakfast in Bed
If your partner is a heavy sleeper, you can make them breakfast in bed. If someone tried to make me breakfast in bed, I would wake up in all of 2 seconds but my boyfriend is a pretty heavy sleeper. I feel like I could make a 5 course meal and he wouldn’t even know. That says a lot because it’s likely I’ll be dropping things and bumping into things which usually makes quite a ruckus. Utilize the extra time that we have before work now (work from home life anyone?) and share breakfast in bed with your partner!
Give them a Massage
Massages are a great way to feel connected to your partner. I know that for me, my level of physical activity has gone down to almost none so my muscles are constantly sore from disuse and from sitting in my not so ergonomic chair at home all day staring at my computer. A massage can be a great way to say I love you to your partner. If you’re feeling really adventurous, grab some massage oil, it makes such a difference!
Surprise them with a Gift
Just because we can’t go out to the store and buy them something, doesn’t mean we can’t surprise our other half! Amazon is still functioning and we can still order packages. It doesn’t have to be something extravagant or expensive but if there is something that your partner has been talking about for a while and it’s within budget, order it in secret and surprise them with it!
Talk about your Future
With the current circumstances, it’s likely that your relationship is going through something that you never expected.This is a very unique situation for couples. You may be going through financial challenges if one or both of you has lost their jobs. You may be going through emotional challenges if you’ve lost loved ones. This means it’s a great time to talk about the future. Try to focus on the good stuff like a future house, your wedding, or other milestones that you are excited to hit. I’m a planner so I love talking about this stuff with my boyfriend. When you bring things like this up with your partner, it shows that you’re in it for the long haul and that you are planning for the future.
Reminisce about the Past
Talking about the beginning of your relationship can bring up so many fond memories. My boyfriend and I frequently talk about how dumb and irresponsible we were (staying up until 5 or 6 in the morning when I had class and he had work the next day) and we laugh, not knowing how we survived on so little sleep. To be fair, I was still in university and he had just finished so our sleep schedules were a lot different than they are now (if I’m not in bed before 10 I fall asleep wherever I am). I think it’s really fun to talk about the past of your relationship. In the early days, neither of you knew what the other was thinking and getting insight into that from your partner can always be interesting. My boyfriend told me that after our first date, I bolted out of the car so fast he definitely thought there was not going to be a second date. Obviously there was, but I was so nervous I didn’t want to seem weird by sitting in the car too long. well , I definitely didn’t sit in the car too long! That one always makes me laugh. That will probably make a good wedding story.
Tell them How Much you Love them
There’s nothing more effective than just flat out telling your partner how much you love them and how much they mean to you! Everyone loves hearing how much the are appreciated and loved, and it’s likely no different for your partner.
Write them a Love Letter
I know not everyone will want to do this but I would honestly be so happy if I got a handwritten love letter. As a self-proclaimed bookworm, I think this is just something that I’m obligated to want. Not to generalize, but I think a lot of women would melt if they got a hand written love letter from their significant other. Try it out! See what the reaction from your partner is. If you’ve never received one, write one of your own and see what your partner says! Maybe it will inspire them to write one of their own.
Have an at Home Date Night
Light some candles, drink some wine, make dinner, watch a movie, eat popcorn, maybe even make dessert! Try and recreate what you would do as a couple if you were able to venture outside for more than a walk. You could incorporate a nice stroll into your walk as well (maybe at sunset) or go for a picnic (do people actually do this? Because I’m not convinced). You could even get flowers from your local grocery store when you pick up your groceries (please don’t make a special trip for this as we are trying to minimize outings for our own and others protection).
These are some things that we can do for our partners to show that we love them. And I know some people might be reading this list and think, I wish that my partner was doing this stuff for me! Talk to them, tell them that you’d like breakfast in bed or say that you want to do an at home date night. Communication goes a long way in relationships. Your partner probably has no idea that you want these things.
What do you do to show your partner that you love them? If you enjoyed reading this post, let me know in the comments! I’d love to hear about your ideas! Also, tell me if you’ve ever been on a picnic because it’s so romanticized in every movie but all I can think of is that it would be windy and there would be bugs everywhere, but what do I know!